“Out of sight is out of mind, they say, but with us, our love would wax stronger,” Ifeoma said to her best friend from university, the day they graduated and went back to their homes.
One year has gone by and the best they have done to keep the friendship is to comment on each other’s picture on WhatsApp status, while the conversation trails off awkwardly once the flatteries are over.
Have you heard of young couples breaking up because one partner was going far away? Long-distance relationships are a waste of time, you’d hear some say.
But what if it could work? What if you could maintain your best friend status even when you are in Lagos and your friend is in Calabar? Some folks can boast of maintaining their long-distance relationships.
Find out 7 ways to make sure out of sight isn’t out of mind for your relationship;
1. Make it a date
One thing that kills long-distance relationships, is the lack of communication. Schedule it, set an alarm, if you must and get in touch. Talk while you still feel comfortable with each other.
2. Share experiences
What did you use to do together? While you can no longer do all of it, keep some of the rituals. You can watch a movie at the same time while commenting on WhatsApp chat or video call.
3. Do not forget their special days
Do not forget their birthdays or your ‘friendivasery’. Reminisce on old memories and keep them alive. It will help you both remember why you became friends or partners in the first place.
4. Make new memories
While you can remember your past experiences with each other, it is important to make new ones. Start a new tradition. Start a book club, cook the same meal on Saturday night…anything that spells a good time.
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5. Don’t make it about yourself alone
You might be tempted to talk about yourself and all you’ve achieved since you two have been apart, while he/she will want to hear this, they want to share theirs too. So, ask about what’s new and what’s been happening in their life.
6. Send a gift
Distance should not mean the end of gifts. Surprise them by sending a gift on their birthday or just for no reason.
7. Do not be too busy for your friendship
With everyone trying to carve a niche for themselves, it is very easy to forget the essence of a good friendship. Remember to listen when they bring a dilemma to you and offer appropriate solutions.
Be there, even when you are not there.
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