Emotional abuse in relationships can be more damaging than physical abuse because the victim is often unaware of these repeated acts. It can reduce self confidence & self esteem while the abuser enjoys an unhealthy control of his/her partner’s emotions and often wants to dominate all opinions and decisions in the relationship.
Here are some ways to spot an emotionally abusive partner.
Always demanding immediate responses
Even though you may not be available to take calls or reply texts, an emotionally bashing partner doesn’t care and aggressively demands swift responses and throws tantrums whenever you don’t reply immediately.
Suppressing love and affection as punishment
This isn’t pleasant to experience and once you notice your partner enjoys toying with your emotions in a bit to teach you a lesson, it’s time to examine the relationship.
Evading apology when at fault
Many partners are often guilty of this. Acknowledging your fault is one thing while sincerely apologizing is another. Emotionally abusive partners will know they are at fault but would hardly apologize for it, instead the partner would rather bomb his/her partner with gifts and thoughtful gestures without actually saying ‘I’m sorry’.
Vagueness on your relationship
If you notice your partner is being extremely shady about your relationship, you both might be needing real talk. Some partners enjoy the power play while others allow love take over. However, always be clear on your relationship status. E.g when it comes to the ‘what are we?’ question and your partner muffles around this aspect refusing to give a concrete description of what he or she wants for whatever reason. You may consider taking a hike.
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